[I purchased the Harlow & Fox gown under my real name with my own money; I did receive a discount in recognition of past collaborations. I purchased the Trashy Diva caftan under my real name with my own money; Trashy Diva is not affiliated with this post.]
For someone who has trumpeted her love for underwire bras for years on this here website, I turned on ’em REAL QUICK once lockdown was underway. I’ve been a little surprised to see how my wardrobe and lingerie preferences have settled into place over the last seven months, especially compared to literally any other point in my life. I’m sure some of it is happening naturally as I get older, but the change in 2020 was ABRUPT, and living at home in isolation surely has to play a big part in it. Previously, I couldn’t get enough of underwires, I liked suspender belts and waspie corsets, and I enjoyed dressing up in one of my 9 million see-through robes. Yet here we are in October 2020, and now I live in three different colors of the same sports bra and have never before owned as many leggings.
I’m still me, though, and me is a fancy bitch at heart, so obviously it hasn’t been all leggings all the time.
Y’all know I’m a bit of a silk monster, and that I love Harlow & Fox’s silk gowns and pajamas for fuller busts. In May, as the “oh this is going to last forever” realizations started to sink in and my clothes began to get a little tighter, I reached out to Harlow & Fox’s creative director about commissioning a silk gown that was a little larger than their largest size, and also maybe could I please have a custom color?
Friends, I feel like a slinky, glamorous mermaid. There’s plenty of room in the bust and waist for my more generous figure, extra length in the skirt for my 5’10” frame, and it’s in the same scrumptious teal silk as my beloved tasseled Augusta robe from one of the brand’s first few seasons.
Once I had one Old Hollywood slinky grande dame ensemble ready to go, the floodgates opened, and I needed more, and more took the form of the fabulous My Pet Leopard caftan from Trashy Diva. It is DIVINE and I wafted around my apartment all summer in it and peer-pressured multiple loved ones to join me on Team Caftan.
This particular cut is so nice– it’s fitted through the shoulders but the waist tie is internal, so the back is loose and floaty, like a cape or a more casual version of a robe à la française.
Plus I can’t put it on without hearing Katharine Hepburn yell “David, the leopard!” at Cary Grant in Bringing Up Baby, an excellent film for many reasons but also because both Katharine Hepburn’s and Cary Grant’s floofy robe game is on point.
I also repainted my bedroom and got out my new bedding in April, an excellent quality-of-life decision.
Here is a Gus!

My pet snow leopard says hello to his fans
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Gown and Fringed Robe: Harlow & Fox (bespoke gown; sold out robe). Review of Harlow & Fox silk pajamas here. Review of bespoke Harlow & Fox DD+ lingerie here.
Caftan: Trashy Diva My Pet Leopard Caftan, XS-XXL. They’ve got a few eye-popping prints to choose from and I hope they restock more sizes because this caftan is incredible. It’s very loose through the body but I found that my shoulders and boobs didn’t allow me to size down; definitely go with the size chart/your usual Trashy Diva size.
Photos: Tigz Rice. Tigz is based in the UK, and I am in New York, and yet, thanks to the magic of technology, we were able to do a boudoir shoot together! If you’re interested in a virtual boudoir shoot from the comfort and safety of your home, check our her virtual shoot packages!
Mya
October 14, 2020 at 9:38 pm (2 years ago)That gown colour is luscious! And that kaftan! I did immediately go to Trashy Diva’s website and I too hope they restock soon. I’d choose the peacock so I hope that is restocked with the inner ties. I am a bit miffed they don’t actually list the measurements for XXL, even though they sell that size.
Your new room colour looks lovely, and the bedding set has a lovely texture to it.
I just ordered a Sugar Candy bra as you’d spoken so highly of it.