A reminder, as you start shopping

You know how to find your size?  Yay you!  You are empowered!  You are mighty!  You are adventurous!  Is there a chance that some of the bras you currently own may not be the best fit?  Yeah, probably.  Don’t feel bad.  Some of mine aren’t the best fit and/or are old and worn out, and I wear them anyway (I know I know I know).  But let’s say the time has come, and you’ve decided to buy yourself something sassy that feels fantastic.  Go out and get em!  Before you head out, though, please remember this: it may still be tricky.

Not every store/website is going to cater to your size, budget, or personal tastes.  Not every bra in your size is going to suit your shape or comfort levels.  Not every shop is going to offer a good fitting experience or even have a clue about proper fitting.  Even if it feels like you’ve tried on every bra in every store, if you’re not finding something you love, I hope you won’t feel discouraged or frustrated.  Well, I mean, you’re totally allowed to feel discouraged because it IS frustrating, but I hope you won’t decide that it’s your fault if you can’t find the right bra.  It’s not.  Say it with me, “It’s not me.  It’s the bras.

There are so many factors to take into account: shape, age, size, comfort, taste, style, price.  Not every bra is going to tick every box.  The problem is still not you, and it never is.  You’re trying to fit something to one of the most intimate, least standardized parts of a woman, and you have to work within a highly standardized manufacturing and retail environment.  There’s a darned good chance it’s going to take some hunting, but you will find the right thing, and when you do the hunt will be totally worth it.

5 Comments on A reminder, as you start shopping

  1. Mary
    May 31, 2012 at 9:53 am (11 years ago)

    Highly specific question: A couple of my bras that are in what’s closer to my right size have the underwire extending all the way into my armpits in a way that’s a) really uncomfortable and b) gets deodorant all over my bras. Is this a general sizing issue, or a bra-specific issue, think you?

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    • Mary
      May 31, 2012 at 9:54 am (11 years ago)

      Also, I hope you don’t mind my asking you all these very specific personal questions/ making you my personal lingerie oracle.

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      • Sweets
        May 31, 2012 at 10:58 am (11 years ago)

        Ha! Not a problem. The answer is a little of both: it’s the nature of bras, but there’s a chance it’s worse with particular brands. Panache and her sister brands, in particular, are known for having wide/deep underwires, which can be quite painful in particular styles. A really good full-bust boutique should be aware of how different styles fit. Panache actually announced recently that they planned to investigate their wires due to the volume of complaints. So if something’s bugging you, speak up, both to a fitter and to the brand (many have active Facebook pages). Otherwise, I’d advise trying on and trying on and trying on some more. Does that help?

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        • Sweets
          May 31, 2012 at 11:11 am (11 years ago)

          Also, yes, sometimes a slight size adjustment solves the problem. Sometimes. Ah, vagaries.

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        • Mary
          May 31, 2012 at 5:38 pm (11 years ago)

          Yes! Brilliant!

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